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For 29 years, Father’s Day was just another Sunday for Terrell Starr.

Thanks to a simple inquiry on Facebook, it’s now a day to celebrate with a father who didn’t know he existed for nearly three decades.

Starr grew up in a rough part of Detroit under the care of his grandmother, with a mother off in the military and a father he never knew who was absent from his life. Meanwhile, his father was living his life not knowing he had a son.

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That all changed one day in 2009 when Starr logged into Facebook and searched for the name “Chris Truesdale’’ in an attempt to see if his father might be out there.

“I didn’t believe that anyone would actually reply because I was just so used to being without him,’’ Starr told Willie Geist in an interview that aired on TODAY Friday. “I thought that I was going to live the remaining years of my life without knowing who my father was.”

Truesdale had only purchased a computer two weeks before he saw Starr’s message. He logged on to his Facebook account at his home in the Bronx to a message from a stranger saying with the subject line “looking for a father.” At the time, Starr was 5,000 miles away, studying in Ukraine on a Fulbright Scholarship.

Truesdale knew immediately that he had just met his 29-year-old son for the first time. There would be no trips to tabloid talk shows to determine paternity.

“When I saw the picture…oh yeah,’’ Truesdale told Geist. “We don’t have to go to Maury (Povich).”

When Starr’s mother initially found out she was pregnant with him, Truesdale had already left their military base and she never was able to track him down. That left Starr yearning for a father he never knew, and Truesdale not knowing he had a son.

“I’m not a guy that has children and don’t take care of them,’’ Truesdale said. “Shoot, I mean, had I known he was my child, he’d have been right there.”

Starr still wonders how he was able to make it through his adolescence alive with only his ailing grandmother to keep an eye on him.

“If I had to deal with gangs and fight my way to school, that’s what I had to do,’’ Starr said. “Sometimes I would come back to the house with cuts on my cheek from fighting, and she would simply say, ‘Did you get your shots in?’ I often wondered if, when things were really tough, if he knew I was here, would he come and get me?”

Starr overcame his circumstances to earn two masters degrees and the Fulbright scholarship. While Starr was still in Ukraine, they caught up on each other’s lives over Skype and then met in person in New York in 2011. Starr was struggling to find work, so Truesdale took his newfound son into his home.

“I didn’t think I needed a father when I was younger, but I needed one when I was 31 years old,’’ Starr said. “I thought I was completely prepared for the world, and life had a different plan.”

Starr has since moved out, but the reunited father and son still talk daily after having been strangers for nearly three decades.

“We can drink beer together,’’ Starr said. “We couldn’t have done that if I was 14. I don’t know, depending on what kind of man he was back in the day, maybe we would have.”

“Wrong answer,’’ Truesdale joked after making a buzzer noise.

“It’s cool,’’ Starr said. “I love him. We do grown adult things together, and he came at the perfect time in my life.”

Source: The Today Show

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Michael Jones does not let his disability effect his ability to teach theatre and dance to Chicago youth.

The Chicago native has performed with Arsenio Hall, Carol Lawrence, and Liberace.

Jones was born with Earb’s Palsy, causing some paralysis in one arm.  He is also afflicted with partial blindness to do cataracts and glaucoma.

“Take a disability and it becomes an ability,” Jones told NBC Chicago.

He is the executive director of the Professional Theatre and Dance Youth Academy, and aims to teach at-risk students theatre and dance during after school programs.

Jones is currently working at the University of Chicago Woodlawn Charter School, where students enjoy his program very much.

“It became fun,” Mikhal Randall, a senior at UCW said. “I wanted to learn how to do it, even though I’m not the best at it.”

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Source: The Grio

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RG: When people ask me this specific question it is sometimes hard to explain. I always knew I was bigger than where I came from. I always had this feeling that if I kept pushing things would change. Having that sense of determination and inner motivation, I was able to attach myself to any and everything that signified success. Being able to meet people and see environments that were beautiful and full of life motivated me to keep going.

TheBlackManCan: How did you develop your entrepreneurial spirit and why is it important for people to have one?

RG: I was introduced into the world of entrepreneurship in the (3rd) grade. I was a part of an after-school program called, “The Ready Program”. They taught us about selling candy and so forth. They even took us on a trip where they gave us money to buy our first product. It was so DOPE! To be honest, everyone doesn’t possess the will and drive of a true entrepreneur. It takes a lot of hard work to build a business. If everyone was an entrepreneur, then who will be managing, assisting, and negotiating deals for the business? I do believe that it is important to have some characteristics that entrepreneurs have for life purposes. It is good to have passion for the job position you are in because you will excel in it. It is necessary for you to be organized whether you are trying to close a deal or help someone close a deal. They all work hand in hand.

TheBlackManCan: Tell us about your first ever venture Infinite Productions.

RG: My first venture was a bake sale at Arts High School in Newark, New Jersey. We made about 120 dollars.

TheBlackManCan: In 2005 you established the Rahfeal C. Gordon Scholarship Fund. Tell us about the work you have done to date and the vision and mission behind the fund. How can students apply?

RG: Since the establishment of the scholarship, we have helped some amazing young individuals. We created various community events that help raise funds along with keeping the communities involved with our progress. The vision is to one day pay for someone’s entire college education for (4) years. That would be so AWESOME! Applying for the scholarship is easy. Just send an email to info@rahgor.com and type “REQUEST SCHOLARSHIP” in the subject bar. Simple and Easy!

TheBlackManCan: Can you share a brief synopsis of your two companies RahGor Publishing and RahGor Motivations?

RG: Our mission is to enhance the quality of life for individuals all over the world while providing the best products, strategies, consulting, events, and resources that will enable them to accomplish their greatest goals. RahGor Motivations is a global team that consists of highly motivated people who provides the highest quality of service, commitment, and results for all those who want to reach their highest potential in life.

TheBlackManCan: One of your quotes is “Extraordinary is my Ordinary” which is befitting for your feature in the League of EXTRAordinary Black Men. What does this quote mean in your own words and why should people embrace it in their everyday lives?

RG: This quote lets people know that I am above average (in mind, body and soul). My excellence isn’t what society believes it is (My excellence is beyond that). Greatness is the beginning. This quote should let you know that you MUST create what hasn’t been created. You must walk tall when people try to play down your goals and dreams. I been through a lot and still I stand here saying “Extraordinary is my Ordinary” and “My Location Is Not My Destination”

TheBlackManCan: Your internationally known seminar Hip Hop Saved My Life has been performed at some famous venues such as New Jersey Performing Arts Center and you have also had the opportunity to perform at Madison Square Garden. How did Hip Hop save your life and how does it feel to empower and inspire people to new heights?

RG: The WISDOM that was given through the music helped me get through dark moments. Hearing Jay-Z talk about what he left behind just to be where he is now. To see young inner city kids use music to start other ventures (i.e. Phat Farm, Roca wear, cartoons, buying real estate, etc.) was amazing to me. Without Hip Hop a lot of what you do, say, and wear would not even exist. Some colleges would not have been cool to go to if certain artist went somewhere else. Hip Hop Saved THEIR lives including mine. It feels like heaven on earth to know that what I am saying and doing is inspiring people to go HIGHER!

TheBlackManCan: You have received many accolades, most recently the Ernst & Young Crystal Award. How does it feel to be honored for living your passion and having an entrepreneurial spirits?
RG: It is definitely a blessing. It shows that hard work does pay off when you are working hard for the right reasons.

TheBlackManCan: Which one of your books do you recommend as the best to read and why?

RG: The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho. I could tell you why but I rather you read it and see for yourself. Enjoy.

TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself and your endeavors in the next five years?

RG: Doing what I’m doing and living how I’m living but on a higher level.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for young black males?

RG: Live by example. Travel the world. Forever be a student. Don’t separate yourself from other cultures due to your skin color. We are all human beings so that means we all connected and came from one source.

TheBlackManCan: You’re currently on tour. What is the name of the tour, what locations have you spoken at and what kind of feedback have your received? How can people get in touch with you to book you for their event?

RG: The name of the tour is called “RahGor Tour 2012”. I spoke in locations that range from Los Angles to Boston and all states that fall in-between. The feedback has been GREAT! We always post the comments on my facebook so people can view them. To book me as a speaker or to take guest appearances, just visit my website at www.RahGor.com or contact our office at (646) 358-4966.

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TheBlackManCan: You were in route to going to law school and you decided to pursue a career in Education. What promoted the change in mindset?
WB: The people in my community inspired my interest to become an educator. More specifically, I felt that the parents and children with whom I interacted with daily were not being taught the things that needed to be in order to succeed. Things like reinforcing to our kids they are smart, college is important, have discipline while in and out of school, and most importantly seeing a black man with a shirt and tie on every day in a classroom setting. While serving on the board for African American Teaching Fellows, and  holding the Recruitment Committee Chairman title, it became evident that I should not try to only persuade others to come and teach our kids, I should accept the challenge and do so myself. Furthermore, I was accepted many law schools around the same time that my Non-Profit was getting off the ground. I could not just leave the people who have come to depend on me, and after much prayer, I decided to go the teacher/principal/Non-Profit Director route for now.
TheBlackManCan: What serves as a driving force for motivation to continue the work that you do?
WB: My own past motivates me. I know what it’s like to not have things go in your favor as a kid, and all you need is a little guidance to get you over the hump, so to speak. I also firmly believe that this is what God has placed me on this planet to do, help others in whatever way he needs me to. There is no better feeling in this world than seeing an individual, young or old, who some may have given up on, finally start to have some hope and turn things around and improve their situation. These are the things leaders in the past did for our people, they instilled hope. Now it is our turn to lead the way.

TheBlackManCan: What have been some of biggest obstacles and how have you overcome the obstacles?
WB: Obstacles are only tests of character and will. I would say things like people thinking I was too young to lead an organization, not having the traditional structured family environment growing up, and the deaths of a few close friends were my biggest obstacles, however they were also blessings. For without those tests, I would not know how to trust God and understand that in due time, all storms cease, and the sun will shine.

TheBlackManCan: On December 7th , 2011 you started a non-profit called Helping Young People Evolve (H.Y.P.E.). What ignited the spark to create H.Y.P.E.?
WB: H.Y.P.E. originated from a need within Charlottesville, VA for more innovative after school programs for our youth. Many of the kids in the program come from very impoverished neighborhoods and to a certain degree, desolate situations. This program is aimed at instilling discipline within them, but also giving them a glimmer of hope. I also wanted to create an entity that was known for giving back and empowering ALL people, hence, the “Community Days” that we have for the city in addition to the services that we provide for the kids.
TheBlackManCan: What is the mission and vision behind H.Y.P.E.?
WB: H.Y.P.E. seeks to address the achievement, opportunity, and aspiration gap that exists for low-income (predominantly African-American) youth in the City of Charlottesville. Our program aims to provide minority children from underserved communities with a structured afterschool program that instills discipline as a means to academic and physical excellence. Our vision is to continue to grow and create a standard of excellence that will permeate not only through all of our youth, but the patrons of the city of Charlottesville and surrounding areas as well.
TheBlackManCan: Can you share with us some recent events that you have together?
WB: Sure, we have had an array of events recently that have impacted several cities across the Southeast. In December we had two Coat Drives in Columbia, SC and Charlottesville, VA in which we donated 2,100 jackets to the homeless and families in need. In January, we had a “Talent of the Stars” talent show in which the elected officials of Charlottesville, VA partook in a talent show in an effort to raise money for the boxing and mentoring club. On May 5^th in Charlottesville we had our 2^nd Annual “Spring Fling Community Day” in which we had free food, haircuts for the kids, job training, health screenings, water balloon games, face painting, a moon bounce, voter registration, other organizations handing out information, and a day of building relationships for people in the area. We will be having the same “Community Day” in Florence, SC on 6/23, Columbia, SC on 7/14, and in Myrtle Beach, SC on 8/5. We simply want to show people we care.

TheBlackManCan: How has H.Y.P.E. been received in the community and what are your plans for the future?

WB: The support that we have received has been amazing. Our local city government has gone above and beyond to ensure that H.Y.PE. has everything necessary to be a success. Furthermore, the community has really come forth and supported us after witnessing tangible results. With that being said, the vision for the program is to create sister sites in other locations, such as Columbia, SC and Baltimore, MD. We have been in discussion with officials from both cities and there definitely seems to be interest to work something out in the near future. The end goal will be to establish a charter school that would help our youth achieve at their highest potential. Not saying that the current school system is inadequate, personally, I just feel that a more concentrated and focused setting could provide greater results.
TheBlackManCan: You are currently pursuing a master’s degree in Education Administration, Why is it important to build a mindset to pursue advanced degrees?
WB: Honestly speaking, one can never truly stop learning. Being that I am interacting with kids daily, it is important for me to be able to lead them down the right path. It is equally important for kids of all ethnicities to see African Americans in position of higher authority. It is my desire to not finish until I receive my Doctorate, which I aspire to complete before 30. These advanced degrees will enable me to have a mindset that views an array of different things from a perspective in which I currently do not have. There is so much to learn from not only experience, but from school. By pursuing these degrees I am also trying to show the youth that I interact with, that it is ok to go to school, do well, and pursue your dreams. It truly is gateway to success in my opinion.
TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself and H.Y.P.E. within the next five years?
WB: Within the next five years I envision H.Y.P.E. serving close to 600 kids over three states. Within this time frame we also hope to have our charter school up and running serving close to 100 or so 9^th Graders. If the academy has not opened, we should be in the final stages and close to the launch.

TheBlackManCan: If you had to pick three words to define yourself what would they be and why?

WB: Helper, Servant, and “Future-Leader.” My goal in life is to help whoever I can, however I can, whenever I can. That is what I am here for.
TheBlackManCan: Why is it important for Black Boys to see positive images of themselves?
WB: Before we can accomplish anything, we have to love ourselves. That’s why it is vital that Black Boys see themselves as future leaders, albeit presidents, doctors, lawyers, principals, etc… But most importantly stand up, strong black men who are productive assets to society. I tell the young men in my programs all of the time, be whatever you choose to be, but make sure that you are proud of the man that you see in the mirror.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for Young Black Males?

WB: Have faith and believe that you can and will prevail in the end, regardless of difficulties. Additionally have the discipline and courage confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be. You are descendants of Kings, I love you and believe in you.

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DVSR: I honestly view politics as a natural extension of one’s devotion to community service.  I graduated from FAMU in 1995 and upon my return to the island, immediately became involved in community service.  I volunteered for the Bermuda Reserve Police Force and did mentoring at various community clubs. While I always wanted to pursue politics, I felt that I personally needed to prepare myself first and “earn the right” to represent my peers.  Through the subsequent years, I always maintained a presence in various volunteer events up to my initiation into Alpha Phi Alpha Fraternity, Inc. in March 2002.  From there, I can say I became much more involved in community service and began to seek and achieve position on various Government Boards.  I only sought out boards that I felt I could make a meaningful impact in the lives of our young people, however. These were boards that dealt mostly in education, training and social awareness.  Through the years, I have been blessed to have had the opportunity to mentor many young men and women and provide guidance when it came to education, life and personal choices.  Through boards such as Bermuda Education Board, Bermuda Government Scholarship Board, the Road Safety Council, The Architectural Advisory Council and CURE (Commission for Unity and Racial Equality) I was able to fulfil my personal mandate.  Currently in addition to sitting in the Senate as the Junior Minister of Education and Youth, Families and Sport I am still a member of the National Training Board and the Board of Governors for the Bermuda College.  I mentioned previously, I always wanted to pursue politics in some fashion and view it as a means to make a positive impact on those who feel that the political process doesn’t involve of matter to them.

TheBlackManCan: What do you feel has been some of your major accomplishments since taking office?

DVSR: As a Senator, our job is the support the various ministries we are responsible for in the Senate Chambers.  Since I was appointed to the Senate by The Honourable Madam Premier Paula Cox, JP, MP, I have learned very quickly the various ins and outs of passing legislation and performing official duties on behalf of my various Ministries.  The Senate is somewhat of a grooming ground for those of us who are planning to run for a seat in Parliament.  I am the candidate for my political party, the Progressive Labour Party, in constituency #7, Hamilton South.  To date, I would consider my greatest accomplishment is making onto the ticket and getting out to canvass and meet the people of #7.  I say meet, but really should say re-acquaint myself as I grew up in this area I am running.  When I go out canvassing, it a proud moment to hear the constituents reminding me that they know my family and me as a young boy running around the neighbourhood. There are not that many greater callings then that of being called to serve the people of your community.

TheBlackManCan: You attended Florida A&M a historically black university. What role did the school play in your development to the man you are today?

DVSR: FAMU played a huge part in moulding me into the man I am today.  When I stepped on the Campus in 1989 at the tender age of 17, I had no idea what I was in for.  I attended a private Grammar School in Bermuda.  This school was majority white and male only.  Being on FAMU’s campus gave me sense of pride I didn’t even know was missing.  To be around so many progressive and positive black men and women was an eye-opener.  It helped boost my confidence level and had me thinking, I can!  I went on to pursue a degree in Electronic Engineering Technology, became president of the school chapter of IEEE and was even awarded Engineer of the Year one year.  I was promoted to a lab assistant and could be found in the computer lab assisting other students or tutoring freshman.  I consider my experiences at FAMU priceless and a very formidable part of my life.

TheBlackManCan: You are currently a partner in small Bermudian architectural drafting and land surveying company. What is the name of this company and what projects have you worked on?

DVSR: In 1999 me and my partner, Troy Lewis, came up with the idea to form a company.  We both worked for the Bermuda Government at the time so it was more of a part-time thing.  In 2000, another Government worker, Ms. Quinell Francis who was a registered Land Surveying, the first black female Bermudian to achieve this honour, joined us in out “part-time venture” and we added the Land Surveying part.  In 2002, the Bermuda Government commenced the construction of the 2^nd Senior Secondary School, a project valued at $121 Million.  Our small, 3 man firm bid on and won the contract to supply all the Land Surveying services for this project.  We all resigned from the Civil Service and have been going at it ever since.  The building of the Berkeley Institute High School remains our largest project to date.

TheBlackManCan: Your company accepts high school seniors from both public and private schools for work release training. Why is it important to have the youth getting practical work experience at a young age?

DVSR: It is important for us to take on and mentor young people, focusing on young men mainly, because they need to be shown that there are people that care very much about their success.  We have been able to use our company to accept young men, perhaps a bit rough around the edges and maybe a high school degree and help them to see things in a different light.  We are proud of the students and young people that have come, worked with us and gone on to do positive things in their lives.  We don’t focus that much on the experience part, especially with high schoolers, but more or less want to build a sense of pride and confidence that anything is achievable with effort.

TheBlackManCan: You have served on numerous boards one that is called C.U.R.E. (Commission for Unity and Race Equality). What the mission and vision of this board?

DVSR: Unfortunately, I was appointed to CURE during its last 6 months of operation before it was attached to the Human Rights Commission and formally dissolved as a Board. Because of the winding up, we really didn’t get to of much apart from the winding down part. The purpose of CURE was to provide an entity that provided Bermuda with a means to discuss the role of Race, Ethnicity and the Inequalities  and their effects on our everyday thought processes.  The longest serving Board I have been on is the National Training Board.  This board is responsible for developing training, schooling and apprenticeship programs for young people graduating from high school and looking to pursue a career in Technical areas.  We provide scholarships to various technical Schools overseas, work with local industry partners to develop National Certifications, develop training programs with the Bermuda College and Industry partners to facilitates young Bermudians gaining schooling and work experiences and more recently as part of the Bermuda Government’s 1 Stop Job Centre, we have taken on a new role.  That role is encouraging Bermudians to register for employment, coming up with methods to evaluate their skillsets and identify areas of competence and areas in need of improvement, matching them with potential employers and monitoring the various work permits issued to non-Bermudians and developing programs to ensure the Bermudians are trained in those fields to eventually be able to fill those positions once a work permit expires.

TheBlackManCan: What are some of major differences between the United States political system and the Bermudian political system?

DVSR: I would have to say the main difference in US politics and Bermuda Politics is that politics is essentially a part-time position unless you are a Minister with a Ministry to run.  It requires much more desire to be involved because it is essentially a 2^nd job. I enjoy it a lot because I know in my heart I am making a difference and encouraging other young men to get involved and become a factor in our country’s future.  Another big difference is the separation of personal life and political life.  Far too often, we watch the US News and have to see someone’s very personal details being reported on.  Here, your job performance is what matters most, with less emphasis being put on your life outside of politics.

TheBlackManCan: How do you balance family life and work life? How has being a father impacted the way you view the world?

DVSR: The balancing act has become more and more difficult as my responsibilities outside the home have increased.  My wife will always tell me, remember that you must save time for you and it’s ok to say no to a request.  I always try to be home to see my daughter to bed no matter what.  Once she is sleep I am free to do my work, relax and discuss the day or even catch a nap.  I tend to wake up and do my reviews, debate preparation, etc. some hour in the morning when it’s quiet and wife and daughter are asleep.  I have to keep a calendar and really that is what saves me.  As long as it’s in my calendar, I can manage!  So every little thing goes in the Blackberry from feeding Layla in the morning to making a phone call in the afternoon.  My greatest joy is my daughter Layla, who provides me with all the inspiration I to go out and do my best.  After all, I now have a more personal attachment to ensuring my country is on the right path.

TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself in the next 5-7 years?

DVSR: Within the next year I see myself elected to Parliament.  Within the next 5 years, I see myself as a Minister for the Bermuda Government hopefully in my preferred department, anything to do with advancing the plight our young people and helping them with their life issues. Beyond the next 5 years, I see my political career blossoming even further and me being re-elected to Parliament and continuing the good works I will have started in my first terms as a Parliamentarian.

TheBlackManCan: Why is it important for young black boys and men to see positive images of themselves?

DVSR: It is very important to see these images because it helps to inspire them to want to achieve.  I am not saying that a positive mentor has to be a black man only by no means.  However, part of the battle is to win over their confidence and trust.  When they view someone they can relate to on a very basic social level, helps to break through some of the barriers that do exist when talking to these young men. When you see someone you can relate to at this basic level, it serves to boost their confidence level to a point where they feel that if he can do it, just maybe I can too.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for young black boys?

DVSR: One of the things I always make sure to pass on, it that it is important to maintain as much control of your success as you can.  Do not rely on others to do the heavy lifting for you.  Always strive to make the reason you don’t succeed is because of something you could have done differently and that way you can learn from those mistakes much quicker.  Also, while we are competing with each other to get ahead, we have to also learn how to support and uplift each other at the same time.  There is no honour in stepping on your fellow man in order to achieve success at any means necessary.

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AK: The Father! Honestly, It started back when I was a freshmen in college and God told me to write what out my college experiences and turn it into a play form. I was always somewhat interested in theater but never gave thought to write a “stage play”. The play was called “Don’t Get Caught Up!” and when we showed it at our church in Gainesville, FL we had a great turnout. What caught my attention the most was the numerous of lives that was changed that evening.

TheBlackManCan: In life we can sometimes become hesitant when God shows up what our purpose is in life. How did you get over being hesitant to write, direct and produce your own play?

AK: At first I always considered writing a play or at least being involved in a play but never thought I would go through with it. However after praying, God revealed to me that He wanted me to write my first play, I was like “Oh no not me” but He said “Why Not You”. I didn’t know how to write or the format of writing of script but God told me to “keep writing”. As I did, it blossomed to an entire stage play and something that even to this day I give God the glory in writing everything I do because I know its Him that is the ultimate writer. On top of that, I knew that I would have to direct the play, even though I knew nothing about directing or anything close to it. But God gave me that desire to direct and since then I have enjoyed the whole aspect of being a playwright and the ability to help others and change lives through the platform of performing arts.

TheBlackManCan: You and wife Takara decided to relocate from Tampa, FL to Atlanta, GA to pursue great opportunities as well as many obstacles. What were some of those obstacles and how did you overcome them to reach opportunity?

AK: Me and my wife relocated after graduating from college at the University of Florida in Gainesville, FL and one of the major obstacles was getting establishing a network and developing that “support system”. During our time in Gainesville, we had a great following and great support system with our church, Showers of Blessings. God opened a door through the play we did entitled “Addiction: No One Knows But Me” and we were holding auditions for a Pastor in the play. We auditioned our current Pastor, Apostle Fredrick Thomas and eventually created a partnership with their ministry, Bless The House Ministries to where our support system and network has opened up huge opportunities for us.

TheBlackManCan: Why is it important to people to build a spiritual foundation and how has it helped you in life?

AK: I must say it is VITAL to have your personal relationship with Christ because it is not only your solid foundation, but He is the true ultimate source where we draw our strength and direct our path because He is the Creator! Who else would know you than the Father Himself? My walk with Christ has allowed me to know my spiritual identity and purpose here on this Earth and has allotted me to touch lives and make a true difference in the people I come in contact with daily.

TheBlackManCan: You live by scriptures 1 John 1:14 and Philippians 4:13. Tell us what each means in your own words.

AK: My apologies its actually 1 John 2:14! 1 John 2:14 especially the last part of that scripture where it says “I write to you, young men because you are strong, and the Word of God lives in you, and you have overcome the evil one.” To me that says a lot, especially as a young man growing up even now because that part alone breaks a lot of negativity and the stereotypes that are placed upon us. We tend to believe what the world says about us and not what our Heavenly Father says about us.

For Philippians 4:13, to me it says that no matter what situations we may face or struggles we may come up against, we can do everything through Christ because it is Him that gives us that strength. Too many times in our culture we are taught independence and self-sufficiency and not dependency upon Christ.

TheBlackManCan: In 2005 your started God’s Child Multimedia Productions and birthed the play “Don’t Get Caught Up!” What is the mission and vision for your production company?

AK: When God gave me the vision of God’s Child Multimedia Productions, He showed me everything from the plan to even the logo. I originally though that God’s Child would consist of stage plays and film production. But of course everything is a process and growth is a process as well. Recently around Christmas time last year God brought to my attention on God’s Child Multimedia. He asked me “What is Multimedia?” I told Him I don’t know! (smile). However through revelation with our team and our Pastors, God showed me that I have a multimedia platform that can empower the community through civil and human rights in the arts. Now our mission is that “We are more than entertainment”, meaning we empower our community by offering acting/dancing classes and an array of multimedia services.

TheBlackManCan: What can viewers expect from your third major production titled Addiction? What does it debut?

AK: Viewers can expect from Addiction a powerful, dramatic yet Christ infused production that make you laugh and cry but at the same time it will make you think. Addiction focuses on a group of characters who realize that only through Christ they can be set free from bondage. The production targets those that face addictions not only on the outside of the church but inside of the church as well. Addiction, the stage play, will debut Fall/Winter of this year (2012).

TheBlackManCan: You recently were awarded the “Black Man Can” Award for Faith/Spirituality. How did it feel to win this inaugural award?

AK: Winning the Black Man Can Award means so much because it allows me to inspire young black men that they can achieve and do great things for the Father. That the stereotypes that are placed upon doesn’t have to apply to you, that you are a Black Man that Can!

TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself and Gods Child Multimedia Productions in the next five years?

AK: I foresee God’s Child Multimedia to be an impeccable force in the entertainment industry and performing arts. Also through our performing arts school, Zion Nation Performing Arts Institute, we will be able to help young men and women achieve through the arts on a national scale.

TheBlackManCan: Why is it important for young Black Males to see positive images of themselves?

AK: It is very important for our young Black Males especially in this generation because they are a future voice. Our young men see so much negativity of a Black Man in media, in violence and in the music we hear to where it’s hard to see positive young black men that are making a difference. The way we see ourselves maps out our identity and purpose in life and if you grew up not knowing who you are or your purpose than it becomes damaging to our young black men.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for young black males of today?
AK: I must say that you develop a relationship with Christ, first and foremost because He will guide you in the way the you should go. Secondly I would say to stay focused and don’t give up. Find a passion or a gift that you have, maybe it’s in film, music or whatever the case maybe and strive for it. Don’t let the negativity influence who you are and don’t wait for the change to happen, you be the change to help make a difference.

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SJ: I realized I loved writing my freshman year of high school. English was my favorite subject, and I enjoyed any class where I had the chance to write essays. I didn’t realize how much I enjoyed the creative side of writing until college when I started a website to journal my random thoughts. That was followed by Facebook notes and a Myspace blog.

TheBlackManCan: You have a goal of becoming a web mogul. Can you tell us more about that goal and what do you mean by web mogul?

SJ: I’m an operations machine.lol. I could spend all day looking at web stats, best practices and strategies, and new technologies without getting bored. I also know what it takes to run a successful website, and I can see myself running a few of them. With that said, I’d love to run a media group (portfolio of websites). I’ve already started the process and now it’s just a matter of hitting the milestones along the way. That’s the dream. To do something I love that I’m also good at.

TheBlackManCan: You write about a variety of topics. If you had to choose your favorite two topics what would they be and why?

SJ: Personal and career development. They aren’t the highest trafficked subjects on this side of the blogosphere, but they’re the topics I spend the most time reading about. They’re also the areas where I think I can have the greatest impact. I use my personal experience — insecurities and all — to connect with readers and get them to introspect and see where they can make improvements in the many facets of their lives (health, fitness, general inspiration, and so on.) I’m also a certified Professional in Human Resources by day and have helped a good number of people secure interviews and jobs. I’ve been blessed with the ability to effectively advise people on their careers and I don’t want to let that talent go to waste.

TheBlackManCan: What is the vision and mission behind singleblackmale.org and how did you come up with the title?

SJ: I actually didn’t start the website. It began as a personal blog (2007) on which the founder shared his thoughts on whatever came to mind. Then it morphed over time into a sex and relationship blog with a hefty female (said with love) audience. I took over the site in early 2011 and realized there’s so much more to being a black male than sex and relationships. So I’ve focused a lot over the last year on figuring out how we can transition out of the sex and relationship niche to more of a lifestyle and opinion site.

And with the help of the team, we recently rebranded to SBM to get away from the immediate dating connotation of “single black male” and refreshed our mission, which now is to be the source for urban male perspective on topics men find interesting and questions women want answered. Our goal with our audience going forward is to inform, entertain, and engage. We inform our readers by covering current and relevant topics that resonate with them. We also highlight products and services they may find useful. We entertain by providing thought-provoking, poignant, and often humorous content that fosters discussion. We engage by responding to our readers questions and comments, interacting with fans and followers on social media, and by hosting offline events that create dialogue between the sexes.

Clearly, I’ve been thinking about this a lot.

TheBlackManCan: What are the necessary steps that someone needs to take in order to build a successful blog like singleblackmale.org?

SJ: There are a few things I’d recommend, particularly if you’re going the group blog route. And even if you’re not, eventually you’re going to need some help. Anyway…

1. Know your end goal. It may take you some time to figure it out. But the sooner you know it, the sooner you can start putting your plan in place to get you there. Do you want to write a book? Do you want to turn your site into a profitable standalone business? Do you want to get acquired? Once you’ve chosen, focus your attention on the things that will get there and not all the other random noise. It’s easy to get distracted by what everybody else is doing.

2. If you can afford it, pay for it. Your energy is best spent on the things you’re good at. So you need to think the same when spending your money. Pay someone to design your website and handle some of the technical problems that come up along the way. Or if you know someone reliable that will help for free or in exchange for a mention here and there, engage them. I’ve spent a lot of hours in code that could’ve been spent setting up meetings and developing strategy. You know. The stuff that actually makes money.

3. Pick a niche and define your brand. You don’t have to talk about the same exact thing day in and day out, but your audience should know what to expect from you. They should also be able to succinctly describe what your site is about to potential readers. A good way to figure out how you want to define your brand is to ask yourself “What words or phrases do I want people to say when they hear my website’s name?”

4. Network. You have to get out and meet people, or at the very least interact with them online. A lot of the exposure SBM has gotten over the last year is because we’ve supported and participated in other influencers’ events and established ourselves as trustworthy and accountable contacts. Personally, I’ve attended conferences, spoken on panels, live-tweeted events, and have even been to a few birthday parties. People remember that type of stuff.

5. Build a solid team. I can’t express how important it is to build a team of hungry and reliable people that share your vision. It makes life a lot easier.

TheBlackManCan: What topics are covered on singleblackmale.org? What do you feel brings the steady flow of readers to the site?

SJ: We discuss current events, sports, pop culture and entertainment, health and fitness, politics, fashion, relationships and a myriad of other subjects. The diversity of perspective on the site is what keeps things interesting. We have six core staff writers and could have six different opinions on the same topic. Add in the guest contributors and imagine the array of perspective. It keeps us away from the status quo. Admittedly, we also get a steady stream of readers from our relationship content that folks are discovering every day and sharing with their networks. That’s how we initially built our name, so it only makes sense.

TheBlackManCan: You have won several awards and have been mentioned in several prominent magazines. Tell us, how does it feel to receive accolades for following your passion and helping others?

SJ: It’s awesome. Like unicorns and sh*t. I’ve been in the mix for over four years now and my efforts are just starting to pay off. People are finally seeing that I’m more than just a relationship blogger, which is not something I ever aspired to be. It just kinda happened. My goal has always been to help people, so I’m loving everything that’s coming my way. As for SBM overall, it’s even better. People peep the potential and are starting to sense that we have bigger plans in mind than being a collective of internet personalities.

TheBlackManCan: If you had to describe yourself in three words what would they be and why?

SJ: Candid, helpful, and hard-working. Candid because I’m very honest in my writing. I don’t just talk about my successes and how I’m winning in the game. I also write about my failures and insecurities.

Helpful because that’s my goal in just about everything I do online. That includes sharing links to positive or resourceful content, write articles of value, answer reader questions, and making people laugh. Laughter helps a lot.

Hard-working because I put a lot of effort into this while also balancing my day job as an HR professional. People who read my personal blog (http://www.therealslimjackson) know about all the stuff I’m involved in and the hours spent behind the scenes. I’ve had to sacrifice part of my social life, but the results of the hard work are both tangible and worth it.

TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself and singlelackmale.org in the next five years?

SJ: I see myself having a book out, working as a Career and Personal Development Coach, and running a portfolio of websites. As far as SBM, I have to pull the card of confidentiality. I won’t front like we don’t see this as a business venture. All I’ll say is that I see us being profitable…very profitable.

TheBlackManCan: People often speak about how Black Men cannot come together but singleblackmale.org demystifies such a thought . What advice can you share with Black Men on how to come together to work together and how important it is to do so?

SJ: There’s enough food for everybody that’s hungry to eat. Everybody that looks like you isn’t competition. Seek to understand then to help. In turn, people will be more willing to help you. The most successful Black Men I know are the ones that work with and support other Black Men…particularly in the same field. It’s not just important for us to work together, it’s critical. Shed the ego and reach out to congratulate a job well done and/or to build a group of like-minded gentlemen. You’ll appreciate the result.

TheBlackManCan: Why is it important for black men and boys to see positive images of themselves?

SJ: The better the images they see, the better they think they can be.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for young black males?

SJ: Don’t be reluctant to ask questions. More people are willing to help you than you think. The sooner you realize the power of asking questions, the sooner you’ll succeed. Don’t drown in your pride.

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JLM: Service was nurtured at a very early age by my beloved mother. Because it was such an intricate part of my upbringing, I naturally  do it.

TheBlackManCan: You have earned your PhD in Counselor Education. What served as the motivation for you to go and get your doctorate? Why should youth now look to obtain more than just a bachelor’s degree?

JLM: From an early age, my family promoted (or shall I say mandated) educational excellence. It was instilled in me that you must have the highest level of education to achieve  the life that you want for yourself, your children, and your children’s children. After obtaining my MAEd, I became intrigue with the idea of becoming a professor, so I could conduct research and teach college students.  During that time, I thought being a college professor would give me the ability to be impactful in a variety contexts, such as the college classroom, K-12 settings, and society at-large. I am convenience every day that I made the right decision.

TheBlackManCan: When you speak with people about their school counselor experience back in high school, you will get a variety of responses. What are the three important characters of an effective school counselor?

JLM: School counselors play a vital role in today’s public schools. Unfortunately, too many schools are not utilizing them in a manner in which they can be most helpful to students, parents, teachers, etc. Good school counselors focus on students’ personal, social, education, and career needs.

TheBlackManCan: You were named the inaugural Director of the Todd Anthony Bell National Resource Center on the African American Male at The Ohio State University. Tell us more about that role and the vision and mission you have carried out since its inception?

JLM: Being appointed the inaugural director of the Todd Anthony Bell National Resource Center on the African American Male is one of the highlights of my professional career. Ohio State University has given me both the support and autonomy to outline a national vision and mission for the Center. Our vision is that the Center will become the “premiere resource on African American males throughout the lifespan,” and its mission is to “examine and address critical issues in society that impact the quality of life for African American males throughout the lifespan.” We hope to achieve these goals “by conducting robust research studies and evaluations that inform social policy and theory on African American males and developing research-based programs, models, and initiatives that could be replicated at other institutions.” Our current priorities are the following: (a) produce high-quality research and scholarship on African American males that informs theory, policy, and practice; (b) publish reports, articles, monographs, and books on African American males to inform national audiences; (c) create a sense of community and connectedness for African American males at The Ohio State University to ensure their success in college and beyond; (d) identify best practices and apply cutting-edge research on African American males; (e) provide consultation and professional development to school districts, colleges, agencies and other institutions on issues focusing on African American males; (f) Advise governmental officials and policymakers on designing effective policies and services for African American males; and (g) pursue and obtain funding to fulfill the mission of the Center. In a short period time, we have received over $1 million in grants and contracts and have received lots national recognition for our efforts.

TheBlackManCan: What are the three most pressing issues for boys of African Decent today and how can they and/or society help them overcome these issues?

JLM: The most pressing thing for African American males is ensuring that they are given every opportunity to receive a “world-class” education. We are just losing too many African American males throughout the educational pipeline (e.g., elementary, secondary, and postsecondary). Without an education, Black males’ futures will remain uncertain. Also, we must help African American males understand that aspirations without effort is not enough. More emphasis need to be placed on “skills” and “will.”

TheBlackManCan: What are three books every young black male should read?

JLM: The Miseducation of the Negro (Carter G. Woodson)

The Fire the Next Time (James Baldwin)

Makes Me Wanna Holler: A Young Black Man in America  (Nathan McCall)

TheBlackManCan: You also hold the position of Associate Provost for Diversity and Inclusion. How should diversity and inclusion look within a school, company or any entity in 2012?

JLM: I personally believe that schools, colleges, and the workplace should reflect the diversity of its citizen. I am strongly committed to diversity and ensuring that all people are given opportunities to achieve their life dreams.

TheBlackManCan: You have taught a wide range of classes. Which one is your favorite and why?

JLM: My favorite class is , Engaging Urban African American Male Adolescents Students.” This course was a special topics one for practicing urban administrators, teachers, counselors, etc. I love teaching this course because it connects to my research agenda.

TheBlackManCan: You have many accolades and citations to your name; most recently you won the “Black Man Can” Award for your work in Higher Education. How does it feel to be named the winner of the inaugural award?

JLM: I am deeply honored to receive the inaugural Black Man Can Award for Higher Education. I have many prestigious international and national awards for my research, but I have never won award like the Black Man Can Award. What makes it so special is that the public selected me rather than academics and researchers. I lost my mother in 2011; it is still painful knowing she is no longer here to share the moment with me. I normally give her all of my awards and honors to put in her home in South Carolina. So, in her memory, I dedicate this award to her.

TheBlackManCan: Why do Black Men and Boys need to see positive images of themselves?

JLM: African American men and boys not only need to be exposed to positive images of themselves, but they also need to experience ongoing healthy relationships and support from other African American men and boys. Such relationships are critical to their emotional, social, and psychological development throughout the lifespan.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for young black males of today?

JLM: I would encourage young black males to develop a vision and plan for themselves. Once developed, take criticism on the move and compliments on the move because they all slow you down if you know where you are going.

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I think the entrepreneurial spirit developed because of my passion to have a positive impact on people’s lives. ~ Francis Orekoya

TheBlackManCan is in Brooklyn, NY to bring you a rising star in the fashion industry. We bring to you a man whose goal is to create original works of art that are simple yet sophisticated, while giving glory to the most high and embracing Religion, Ethnicity, Art & Culture. It is our distinct pleasure to introduce Francis Orekoya creator and sole designer of FDyanmo1986. Francis sits down with TheBlackManCan to discuss success, having an entrepreneurial mindset, FDynamo1986 and overcoming obstacles.

TheBlackManCan: Francis, how do you define success? What does it take to be successful?

FO: Success is when you accomplish your goals in life. One’s goal may be to get married and have a family, or to land that dream job they’ve always wanted, and they won’t feel successful until they do so.

TheBlackManCan: How did you develop your entrepreneurial spirit? Why is it important for youth of today to develop an entrepreneurial spirit and mindset?

FO: I think the entrepreneurial spirit developed because of my passion to have a positive impact on people’s lives. An entrepreneurs job is to make a living by satisfying others, building connections, and giving consumers something they want/need. For me, whether it’s selling someone a shirt that makes them feel good, or leading and team to victory, I love to serve others. When the youth develop this mindset, they’ll be able to be great at anything, because realistically, we are all working to help someone else feel good.

TheBlackManCan: You excelled in the classroom and on the athletic field. Why is it important to embrace the student part of being a student-athlete?

FO: More than likely, most teenagers WANT to play sports, but feel like they HAVE to be a student. In life, we will always do what we have to do, in order to do what we want to do. Embracing the student part of being a student-athlete prepares us for life.

The inspiration comes from a lot of things actually. Music, culture, religion, people, traveling, New York city, animals etc. These things help me create original works of art with substance and meaning. ~Francis Orekoya

TheBlackManCan: What ignited the spark to start FDynamo1986? What is the meaning behind the name?

FO: The “F” stands for Francis, my first name. “Dynamo” was one of my older brothers nicknames, and I wanted to be like him, so I started calling myself Dynamo. Lastly, “1986″ is the year I was born, and together the name “F.Dynamo1986″ was created. I knew that I always wanted to use my God given gift to draw as a way to make a living, so I combined that with my passion of making people feel good. Seeing someone feel confident or attractive wearing an item I created is something I can do for the rest of my life.

TheBlackManCan: What is the inspiration behind the designs of FDynamo1986?

FO: The inspiration comes from a lot of things actually. Music, culture, religion, people, traveling, New York city, animals etc. These

In life, we will always do what we have to do, in order to do what we want to do. ~ Francis Orekoya

help me create original works of art with substance and meaning. Designs that represent things that people can relate to and would want to embrace.

TheBlackManCan: Can you tell us about your upcoming summer line? What can we expect? Where can one purchase FDynamo1986?

FO: The summer line is part 2 of our “Hail to the Victors” line. The designs in this line represent victory, something we all want. Some designs have a sports feel, some have a religious feel, but all in all we want people to walk out of their homes feeling like winners wearing FD86. You can expect simple yet sophisticated art, with great summer color schemes, and a photo-shoot/look book that represents a victory party! The line will be sold online at FD86.com, but you can buy them in person at Ragga Muffin, Last Minute Boutique and The City Don’t Sleep, all stores that are located in Brooklyn NY.

TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself and FDynamo1986 in the next five years?

FO: Being a household name amongst our target market and having a great impact on people’s lives.

The more black men and boys see Black Presidents, Fathers, Teachers, Coaches, Doctors, Business owners, etc., the more they’ll believe that they can do the same. ~ Francis Orekoya

TheBlackManCan: What have been some of the obstacles you had to overcome in life and starting your business?

FO: Understanding that it’s a process, a long process. People don’t become doctors overnight, it takes years of school to just get the degree, then you have to take time to actually find a job. I had to understand that it’s the same with being an entrepreneur (or anything), it takes years of learning, before you can even get in the door.

TheBlackManCan: If you have to name two books every person should read what would they be and why?

FO: “The Bible” and “The Tipping Point”. “The Tipping Point” because it explains how little things can make a big difference, every house is made of little bricks, nails etc. and they are ALL necessary. “The Bible” because whether you believe in God or not, the advice given in that book cannot be matched and it relates to all aspects of life. There is no problem The Bible doesn’t have an answer to (you just have to find it).

My advice is that we must work hard, work together, and work in peace! ~Francis Orekoya

TheBlackManCan: Why is it important for black men and boys to see positive images of themselves?

FO: Because most people tend to believe that they can only be what they see. It’s hard to tell or influence an African American to can be a Nascar driver, when there aren’t any popular drivers, if any at all. The more black men and boys see Black Presidents, Fathers, Teachers, Coaches, Doctors, Business owners, etc., the more they’ll believe that they can do the same.

TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have your young black males of today?

FO: My advice is that we must work hard, work together, and work in peace! The only way to be anything worth something, is to work hard, very hard. Whether it’s to be a good father, employee, employer or friend, it’s all hard work, no ways around it. Now although we must work hard, I was once told that “more hands makes less work”. If we work hard and together we can accomplish a lot as a community! Lastly, if we work hard, together, and peacefully, we will all live a blessed life, together as black men!

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RWS: My teaching style dictated the moniker, EDUTAINER. I am an educator who possesses the ability and the wherewithal to make learning exciting. My non-traditional teaching methodology is considered entertaining and engaging. I make it a point to know my audience, make the lessons relevant and fun.

TheBlackManCan: When did you realize that you possessed an exceptional speaking gift?

RWS: I realized while sitting in a pew at church as a teenager that speaking was in my future. It was something about the way the preacher used words and phrases to convey the message that intrigued me. From that day forward, I could be found reading and meditating on God’s Word. During my time of study, I stumbled across a profound discovery. My name, Rehema, is one letter short of the word Rhema, which means: the Spoken Word of God. A Rhema Word is a specific, tailor-made word from God directly to you. And that word is typically sought after to give daily guidance to the life of the Christian. That small, yet significant coincidence led me to accept my calling into the ministry some years later and consequently preach my first sermon. And I’ve been “preaching” ever since.

TheBlackManCan: Your second gift is that of a teacher. You say it is your passion and purpose. When and how did you come to know this?

RWS: I have been around education all my life. Both my parents were educators (retired), and they made a point to stress the importance of education as it related to creating future opportunities for me. It wasn’t until after I retired from athletics that I realized I had a knack for teaching. I started as a basketball coach and I quickly found success and a client base of young girls who aspired to play college basketball. Over time, and upon recommendation of one of my client’s parents, I landed my first full-time teaching job. I always tell people that I didn’t find teaching, teaching found me.

TheBlackManCan: How did you ultimately decide on teaching in higher education?

RWS: It was a family emergency that called me out of the State of California to Phoenix, Arizona where I stumbled upon my first opportunity in higher education. There was an ad in the local newspaper seeking college admissions representatives, and one of the incentives was an all-expense paid education. It just so happened that I had been contemplating going back to school to earn a graduate degree, and here was my opportunity to get it.

After being hired, I quickly found myself at home in the admissions department. It brought me great joy “changing lives” through higher education. I felt an instant connection with the adult learners I served. After awhile I found myself following up with students after their enrollment to check on their academic progress, which was above and beyond what was required of me. It didn’t take long for me to begin researching opportunities to teach at the college level, all I needed to do was complete my graduate degree. And that opportunity presented itself exactly two years later.

TheBlackManCan: You have international as well as WNBA experience. Can you share what a day in the life is like as a professional athlete?

RWS: As a professional basketball player, GAME DAY, was the best day ever. Typically, I would sleep in as long as I could before shoot around. Whether we were playing at home or away, we would always have a light practice at the arena to go over the game plan one last time. After shoot around, I would have a light lunch to hold me over till after the game. My pre-game meal consisted of a garden salad, grilled chicken breast with fries or a baked potato. A pre-game nap was next on the agenda, so I could be well rested and fresh for the game.

I’d always head over to the arena a few hours early to get treatment and my ankles taped. I usually headed out onto the court early to get a few hundred shots in before everyone else, to break a sweat, and stretch real good. Thirty minutes before game time, we met as a team in the locker room to get our matchup assignments, say a prayer, and make our way out onto the court. There is no greater rush than running out onto the court, of a packed home stadium, full of screaming fans.

Practice days were definitely a lot more laid back. I would go to practice in the morning for three hours, hit the weight room for a light resistance training regimen, and maybe watch a little film in the locker room. After practice, a hearty lunch was always the first thing on my mind to replenish my body, then a nice long nap. The rest of my day would consist of any appearances I was scheduled for, handling personal business, shopping or just relaxing.

Life on the road is expected as a professional athlete. I spent a lot of time in airports, nights in hotels, and living out of a travel bag. My laptop, cell phone, and MP3 player were my best friend and kept me connected to family and close friends while gone for days/weeks at a time. I have been fortunate enough to have traveled to just about every State in the Union because of basketball. I have met people from all walks of life, and been in the presence of some of the most sought after people in the world.

TheBlackManCan: You represent the essence that is a Scholar-Athlete. How important is it to be a Scholar-Athlete and not just an Athlete?

RWS: It is very important. No matter how great an athlete you may be, never lose sight of why you’re attending college in the first place. No one can play sports forever. I always saw athletics as means to pay for my college education, a platform to showcase my athletic talent and an opportunity to engage in the highest level of athletic competition. But, my proudest moment was earning a college degree. Having earned my undergraduate degree holds more significance in my life than any of my athletic accolades. Those accolades come and go, records are made to be broken, but the fact that I’ve earned my college degree is FOREVER!

TheBlackManCan: You have accomplished many accolades on and off the court. Who and/or what is your inspiration?

RWS: My inspiration comes from what God has ordained me to do with the life He has given me. I’m in total awe that He called me to speak into the lives of other people; particularly young people…young adults.

I have lived a blessed life. My resume speaks for itself. It has given me a platform to share what is possible in anyone’s life, if they put God first. I know God is no respecter of persons, so what He has done in and through my life, He will do for others as well. I want as many young people as possible to discover their passion and find their purpose.

I’m also inspired to know that the words I speak, the books I write, and the Christ like lifestyle I choose to live has made/is making a difference in the lives of those I have had the privilege to come into contact with.

TheBlackManCan: Rags 2 Riches is a self-published book that you have written and is available for purchase. Can you give us some insight into your book?

RWS: Rags 2 Riches is a Diary of a Christian Athlete. I share my athletic exploits from the time I picked up a basketball as a young girl, to the time I retired as an accomplished professional athlete. I bare all as I share life lessons I gleaned over the course of my journey. I wrote blending together actual events, poetry and the Word of God. This book was written to INSPIRE all that read it. Below is one of many poems I wrote that exemplifies the underlying theme of the entire book…

RAGS 2 RICHES

I’m not talkin bout MONEY, POWER, RESPECT…

Cause for most, what you see is what you get.

But I’m talkin bout the treasure that lies within

deposited through the Savior’s death that freed mankind from sin…

So you don’t have to stand on the outside lookin in.

Just know that it’s JESUS whom you must confess…

He’ll take off your filthy rags and robe you in His righteousness.

Freedom from sin, sickness, pain, and strife…

whosoever believes in Him will not perish but have everlasting life.

Right now, I pray for every man, woman, boy, and girl…

to no longer be consumed by the cares of this world.

But to pursue LOVE, JOY, and PEACE

that only the Most High God can give…

testifying to every man

that Christ died that we might live.

And like disciples, you’ll desire to catch men and not fishes…

that’s when you know you’ve gone from…RAGS 2 RICHES!

Rehema W. Stephens

TheBlackManCan: There are going to be young girls who read this feature, what inspirational words would you like to leave with them?

RWS: First, I would say to my young sisters to enjoy your youth. Don’t be in a hurry to grow up. You have your whole life ahead of you. Take your education seriously, dream BIG, and go after those dreams while you’re young.

Second, I would affirm them by saying, “you can do anything you put your mind to”. Develop your gifts and talents, because they are the “key” to you unleashing your Passion and finding your Purpose. Because when you operate in your Purpose, you no longer look without, for what already lies within.

And lastly, surround yourself with the BEST people. Choose your friends and acquaintances wisely. Iron sharpens iron. In other words, befriend those who make you better and stronger because of their presence in your life.

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