TheBlackManCan is bring you another Exquisite Woman. We bring to you a woman who feels that parents is the first and most powerful influence. It is our distinct honor and pleasure to introduce Ms. Rochelle Riley-Wilson author of “How to Make Love to Your Child.” Ms. Riley Wilson sits down with TheBlackManCan to discuss the book, her family, parent/child bonding ceremonies and advice for parents.
TheBlackManCan: Rochelle, if you had to define yourself with three words what would they be and why?
RR: Love, it is the rhythm of life that maintains living. Compassion, because I have a sympathetic kinship with my fellow beings, and mother. Motherhood is my most important contribution to society.
TheBlackManCan: What inspired you to write the book “How to Make Love to your child?”
RR: The birth of my first child unleashed a love I had never before felt, along with concerns that my child, and all children felt a constant flow of love.
TheBlackManCan: Many people come up with a variety of different thoughts when they hear the title of your book. Can you share with us the meaning behind the title?
RR: The word “make” means to create, to construct, to cause to be. Those definitions embody the parental purpose. All good and committed parents make love to their children.
TheBlackManCan: What is a parent/child bonding ceremony and why should parents look to have these ceremonies with their children?
RR: The ceremony is a beautiful way to celebrate parental commitment. Parents may do it as means to express devotion.
TheBlackManCan: What do you feel are the three biggest obstacles keeping parents and families of today?
RR: I feel a great challenge faced by today’s parents is maintaining strong standards and values within children. Due to the influence of social media, reality shows, and music lyrics, children must understand the difference between entertainment and reality.
TheBlackManCan: You have stated that you feel Life is learned at home. What do you mean by those words?
RR: By that I mean children learn standards, values, and expectations at home. Law enforcement, teachers, and religious leaders should not have the burden of blame for deviant behaviors in others children.
TheBlackManCan: What kind of content can readers expect to find in your book?
RR: “How to Make Love to Your Child” presents advice aimed at maintaining a strong parent/child bond, interactions, especially verbal, that instill confidence and value of self, and methods that help to prevent sexual violations, or the ability of the child to confide in the parent if it happens.
TheBlackManCan: Once people finish reading your book what is it that you want them to walk away with?
RR: I want them to realize at least one thing they never before considered that acts as a positive attribute to their parenting goals.
TheBlackManCan: Tell us about your children and what steps you take to parent them. Are there something’s you do with all of them and something’s you one do with one?
RR: I have four children. My son Michael is 23, and the oldest. At this point, our parent/child relationship involves me getting to see the fruits of my labor. We talk about everything. It is interesting to hear his insights, and to see the man he is, and the man he is becoming. I am very proud of him, very pleased with what I see. Due to his confidence, he completed a triple major BA, received a MBA, and has a utility patent. It is currently in production. All those accomplishments are based on an innate sense of self, not genius. If the proper self-esteem is present, one can perform as a genius.
My fifteen year old twins Kayla and Krista are very different. Kayla requires a lot of “mommy” time. We cuddle, watch movies together, or sneak away for dinner, just the two of us. She knows what she wants, and she knows what paths will prevent her from reaching her goals. Kayla is very intelligent, has a deep seated wisdom, and a strong spirituality that guides her. I am often impressed by her insights. Krista is my queen of academia child, typically an all “A” student, having received the Principal’s award 3 times in the past. She is a normal teen, pretty much attached to her phone device. She likes hanging out with friends, so I make sure I know the parents of her clique, and be certain we have similar expectations and limitations. However, I am confident in her sense of responsibility, and I love how much she loves her self.
Now Karissa, the five year old is a fantastic firecracker! She is such a happy, singing, skipping person. Just the perfect princess content in her kingdom. She requires a great deal of attention, so I try to do at least one on one activity with her a day.
TheBlackManCan: Where do you see yourself in the next five years?
RR: I see my self as a well known author of children’s books. I have created a delightful character whom deserves an audience.
TheBlackManCan: How important is it for black people to see positive images of themselves?
RR: Ultra important, especially at home. We as a people really need to pay close attention to the messages we give our children. You will never hear “nappy headed” or “black so and so” in my house. My daughter Karissa is the deepest skin colored child I have. She has been taught her skin color is her beauty mark, and she wears it well.
TheBlackManCan: What words of advice do you have for parents of all ages?
RR: I advise parents to flatter and compliment their children at every opportunity. This can be done at all ages. Let them know they are beautiful, special. Tell them when they impress you. Gushing over your darlings is a great way to make them feel powerful.
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